Healthy Boundaries vs. Unhealthy Boundaries
https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-set-boundaries/
People with solid boundaries tend to have lower levels of stress and higher self-esteem because they prioritize their well-being.
On the other hand, people without boundaries may inadvertently let others take advantage of them.
They may lack self-confidence, a sense of purpose, or a clear identity to guide them through life. Counselor Dr. Dana Nelson writes, "in work or in our personal relationships, poor boundaries lead to resentment, anger, and burnout."
People without boundaries can be easily persuaded into things they don't want to do because they may be acting out of guilt or obligation rather than self-love.
| Signs of Healthy Boundaries | Potential Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries |
| Protect yourself from getting taken advantage of | Vulnerable to being "used" or taken advantage of |
| Own your time | Over-commit your time to others and leave little time for yourself |
| High self-esteem and self-respect | Lower self-esteem and critical inner dialogue |
| Prioritize time for yourself | Give a lot of their time to other people |
| You only take on responsibilities you can handle; you don't overcommit yourself | Feeling exhausted or burnt out by overwhelming commitments and responsibilities |
| Authentically say "no" if you don't have the energy or capacity to do something | Have a hard time saying "no" |
| Set limits for others without feeling bad | Feel guilty for expressing boundaries |
| Strong sense of identity and direction | Change yourself to fit in with different people |
| Take care of your own problems and understand that you cannot heal other people's issues for them | Take on other people's problems as your own |
| You clearly communicate your needs and wants; you prioritize your self-care | You put other people's needs and wants before your own |
Suppose you're tired of living your life for other people or find yourself exhausted by all the commitments you've made to others. In that case, it's time to set some boundaries and reclaim the power of your time, energy, and mental well-being.
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